I've written before that I don't enjoy story lines that involve cheating and I still don't. I think it's a horrible thing to do to somebody and it would be awful to find out that your partner had cheated on you. It just brings up horrible feelings of anger and betrayal but also on inadequacy and all of those emotions combined is a story line that I would generally avoid. But as it is Sarra Manning, I really wanted to give this book a try.
It's the story of Hope Delafield who finds out at this horrible dinner party that her boyfriend (of 13 years!) is cheating on her with her best friend Susie. The rest of the story is of Hope dealing with this betrayal and trying to define for herself of how much can she forgive? Is it okay for her to take her cheating boyfriend back if it's just a drunken kiss? Can she move on with this relationship if it's more than that? If it's love?
I really felt for Hope being in this impossible situation. Obviously I wanted Hope to stick up for herself more, to kick this guy out and move on. But I could also see how hard it was for Hope to walk away from a relationship that has lasted for such a long time. Walking away means the end of a thirteen year relationship as well as an end to the future that she had planned with him. It's scary and hard and I don't envy her position and her decision at all.
I think it can be really easy to sit on the sidelines on this one and say very clearly that personally I wouldn't accept cheating in any of the forms, and I'd hope that I'd have enough willpower and think enough of myself to get out of any relationship that would involve cheating. But I think that Hope's story is pretty realistic in the way that it shows how much of an effect it does have on different areas of Hope's life. I finished this book and I found myself questioning my own thoughts on opinions on the topic, and I quite enjoyed that reevaluation! So now I'd like to hear from you...
What would you do?
Cor, it is a difficult one. I think, for me, it does depend on the circumstances. A one off kiss is definitely different to having a year long affair, for example. It's such a tough situation. I think if the circumstances were right I could forgive my chap - but I'm pretty sure it would involve a lot of weeping and throwing things and bringing it up in every single argument for YEARS to come, which is definitely not very healthy.ReplyDelete
It's one of those situations where your plans of what you'd do fly out the window as soon as it actually happens. I say I'd try to forgive and move on but I'd probably be all 'I'M GONNA DITCH THAT ZERO AND GET MUSELF A HERO!' I hope I never find myself in that situation!
I've had a copy of this one since it came out and now I've just read Adorkable I'm craving more Sarra Manning so I think I'll try it next :).
It really, really is a difficult situation! I've always thought that I wouldn't tolerate ANY cheating, but there is such a wide distinction there. A drunk kiss I could probably accept, but definitely not any prolonged affair. It wouldn't be about the actual cheating I'd have a problem with but the amount of lying and deception that came with it. But of course, no idea unless it actually happens! Which I hope it doesn't for either of our sakes :)Delete
Oh, Hope's decision sounds very difficult! To be honest, I wouldn't throw away a 13 year relationship just because of that! I've never been cheated on, so I don't know what it feels like, but I think if it was just a drunken kiss, then she should give him a second chance! But if he EVER does it again, he's be then straight out the door :)ReplyDelete
I must read this book, I'm dying to see what Hope chooses to do!
The book starts off with Hope thinking it's just a kiss and then the story goes on ... let's hope you never experience cheating! I did when I was a lot younger, but then the relationship didn't mean as much to me then.Delete
I don't know what I'd do, I guess I'll only know if I'm ever in that situation (and I hope I won't ever be!).ReplyDelete
Yes, it is one of those things that you can't know until you're in that position!Delete