When I first moved into this new town a year ago, I really struggled to make new friends. I'm horribly shy and I do terribly with starting a conversation with a stranger and maintaining small talk. But once you get to know me, I'm a nice person, a good friend. You might have to trust me on that one, but I promise, it's true.
Anyway, I thought I'd struck gold when I came across this NCT coffee group in my neighbourhood. We meet up every Monday afternoon at a different person's house every week. There's roughly 6 of us, and we all have similar aged children. It was slow at first getting to know the other women, but I felt that over the past 6-8 months we've come a long way. I knew that the other women had known each other for a lot longer, but I felt accepted into the group, felt like a friend. We've gone to each other's children's birthday parties, girl's nights out, holiday parties. We've discussed close-friend things and had a good laugh.
And then I found out that the rest of them are not only meeting up on Monday afternoons but also Thursday afternoons, with one exception. They don't invite me. Why not me? I'm a likeable person. Elliot gets on well with the other children. They know I don't have other plans for Thursday afternoons. I don't get it. It feels really hurtful and I don't know what to do. I don't know how to bring it up with them without being overly hurt or confrontational. It might just be something unintentional, right?
On the other hand, it has been harder because I had to make friends with them all in a group setting. There hasn't been a lot of one on one time and I can see that that must have some bearing on it, but it doesn't hurt any less. Since I've found out about their Thursday get-togethers I've made the attempt to make other friends, but am I back to square one? Back to those uncomfortable 'Hi, how are you? how old is your child?' conversations at toddler group... SIGH.