1) For a person you loved deeply, would you be willing to move to a distant country knowing there would be little chance of seeing your friends or family again?
It's funny, this question. It's the first question in the book and immediately, the thing that I always think of when I come across it is that I've done this. I've experienced it firsthand. And that's always made me think warm and fuzzy thoughts and to get a bit sentimental over my relationship with N.
But recently, as I was thinking about it, I started to think about how moving to another continent when I was 18 to marry a man I'd met over the Internet was actually pretty difficult for me. It was a hard adjustment mentally and it was a lot to take in. Figuring out the differences in language and money and customs and all the rest of it took awhile. And all of those changes took its toll on me. I think back on it now and realise that I didn't fully consider how much my life would change by taking this chance on love.
And then recently, I also started to think about how this gigantic change would have been different if the things that are around now had been around 13 years ago. Sure, I could have kept in better contact with friends and family using the phone and email and stuff like that. But I didn't. I might have if Facebook were more popular, or if Twitter had been around. I used Skype for awhile and even hand wrote some letters. But still, I don't keep in touch with that many of my high school friends or with my aunts and uncles and cousins, which might have been different in another life where I'd chosen to remain in the United States. Possibly. Hard to know now.
Would I do it all again if I had the choice? Would I drop everything and move to another country for love? I look at my life now and there's no doubt how happy I am and how lucky I am to have the things that I have. I probably would. I just wish that I was better prepared for it all. I wish that I appreciated the friends and family that I had before and worked at those relationships more than I did.
Would you move to a different country for love?