Here's the thing - Elliot is thirteen months old, and he still does not sleep through the night. It's appalling, really, we should have taken care of this months and months ago. He has so many bad sleeping habits, that I fear this will take forever. I've been reading a sleep book for children and now here's our list of crimes - For ages, he's been falling asleep by giving him milk. When this doesn't work, N or I bounce him until he passes out. He's been taking his naptimes on the floor in the living room until just recently. His cotbed is still in our room. In the middle of the night, when Elliot wakes up crying, he gets taken into our bed. We cosleep. Slowly, all of this has to change. But N and I can't bear to see him crying. Under the advice of my health visitor (who I have an uneasy relationship with) we started the day before yesterday by putting Elliot into his cot tired but awake, told him it was sleeptime and left the room. Five minutes later, one of us would check on him. Then we waited a bit longer, and so on. 50 minutes later the poor child had falled asleep at the opposite end of his cotbed facing his blanket at the other end. He slept for four hours in a row before he woke up and we put him in our bed. Last night, it only took 20 minutes before he fell asleep, but he woke up 10 minutes later and cried for a few minutes before he put him back to sleep. I think it's been pretty good progress. We'll still continue taking him into our bed until he gradually is able to sleep through the night. It's been a rough few nights though, I feel terrible when Elliot cries like that. I know in my heart that I shouldn't feel guilty or think that Elliot is feeling abandoned, but I can't help it - he's breaking my heart.