Do you ever think you're good friends with a person only to find out it's all one-sided? And if so, isn't that embarassing?
There were quite a few people I knew from toddler groups and my NCT coffee group that was pregnant at the same time as I was with Littlest. We'd all talk about how were doing pregnancy-wise, gripe about problems together and I thought it gave us all this shared-experience that was fairly bonding. It's nice to know other mothers in the area whose children were born within days of each other, right?
There was one particular woman who I was friendly with beforehand. We talked about our older children going to pre-school and how we decided which places to put their names down for. We talked about making money without going back to work and the pros and cons of different direct-selling businesses. We talked about the limitations of not being able to drive to name just a few... So our conversations were varied and not solely child-centric.
So when her baby was born less than two weeks after Littlest was born, I was thrilled for her. I wanted to know how she was feeling, how her oldest was coping with the new addition, how feeding was doing, if she was able to sleep. When I saw her again at toddler group, I thought we'd have lots to discuss. I felt bad that I'd forgotten to write out the 'congrats on the new baby' that I'd bought especially for her. I went up to her, we spoke for a few minutes. Then we wondered away.
She had answered all of my questions, but didn't volunteer any additional information. She was polite but not friendly. And she never once enquired about me or Littlest. In fact, it was if she was looking over my shoulder to find someone more interesting person to speak to. To find who else hadn't already oohed and aahed over her new child.
Is it just me? Am I blowing this out of proportion? Should I give her some slack because she's still in her newborn-daze? I'm not sure what to think. I just feel a bit stupid.